Every girl wants to be loved, cherished, and gallantly treasured. This is why we love those stories about the knights in shining armor who rush in to save the damsel in distress, or how the plots that include a man falling desperately in love and gallantly trying to win the girl’s heart intrigues us so.
In our innermost hearts, we long for that feeling of being someone’s one and only, to have someone look at us with love radiating from their eyes, to know that we are the most important person in their life, and to have a dashing knight heroically fight to win our hearts.
Admit it. Secretly, deep down inside this appeals to you. Even though you may brush it off with a “That will never happen!” or “That’s completely unrealistic!,” you enjoy the idea and the momentary possibility.
How do I know that you probably secretly desire this when you may not have even thought about it yourself? Because why else would there be so many Christian and non-Christian romance novels in circulation? Why else do girls get all giggly and excited about reading the love story of a recent engagement or wedding? But you’re not alone. I’ve been there, and countless other women, young and old, are in the same boat.
Just look at the world around us, at the overly dramatic high school social scene, at the revolving door of dating relationships, at the number of children born out of wedlock. All these point to one thing: we want to be loved.
But is this wrong? Is the desire for love evil? Is the longing for someone who will cherish us immoral? No! These are right things, good things, God things.
The problem is that we look for them in the wrong places.
We pin them on a person or thing. “This guy will fulfill my needs.” “Only that future spouse can love me in this way.” “I’ll be happy once I have this.” And so on.
But this thinking and mindset is erroneous. It’s what landed Gomer in slavery, what brought God’s holy wrath down upon idolatrous Israel*, and what fuels the ever-changing dating scene.
When we pursue love, acceptance, and approval in the wrong places, we rarely find them. It’s like looking for water in the middle of Death Valley. It’s impossible to find, and the seeker just ends up frustrated, disillusioned, and heart-broken.
Likewise, God has instilled in us a desire and longing to be loved and cherished by one stronger than us, one that will provide for both our physical and emotional needs, and one that will gallantly rush in to rescue us should we need it, but we tend to look for these in every place other than God. However, these are things that only God can truly provide; it’s a void only He can fill for He is the One for whom are hearts truly long. Sadly, however, we often don’t realize it and instead turn to seeking a mortal man who can fill that void.
However, the imperfect, sinful, and mortal man will fail. He will let you down. He will fall short of your high expectations. He will lose the shiny armor you thought you saw and turn into an ordinary, lack-luster, unexceptional, and frequently annoying guy.
But Jesus Christ will never lose His brilliance, never disappoint, never fall short of our expectations or fail us. He is our Savior, our Lord, our Bridegroom, our One True Love, and the Romancer of our heart. And in Him is found all the love, acceptance, and affection a girl could want. He alone can satisfy the deepest longings of our heart. And to Him only should we look for these good, right, and God-instilled desires.
So will you start looking for love in the right place?
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